We have a blended family; it's not something I asked for when starting my family, and it hasn't always made life the easiest, but it has proven to have some beautiful relationships within it.
Nick and I both have sons from different relationships and no kids together. The boys are Nick 16 and Jacob 12. We have been together a little over seven years now.
Nicks son Nick aka Nicky or Little Nick had the hardest time with everything. He just turned 16 in March and moved in with us this past January. Before that, he was only with us three weekends a month. That made it tough because we lived a whole life without him, and my son Jacob was with his dad on the other side of the phone line.
I have a lot of empathy for a kid in that situation, I can't even imagine how he felt. We had him every opportunity we could and tried to help him feel a part of the family. However, a lot of the time he felt like he was missing out on things. I am not an expert in dealing with stepchildren or children from a split family, but I can say that the little things for the child matter the most such as family pictures, vacations and a space of their own in the house.
Dealing with a blended family has proven to be difficult at times especially for me. It seemed to have come a little easier for Nick. I found the stupidest things difficult. I struggled with dealing with a kid who was raised by someone else and I felt as if I couldn't say anything because it was taken very offensively. I also struggled with letting my son be around a different mom figure, something I think Nick related to more.
My son Jacob is going to be 13 this August. His Dad has struggled with alcohol issues for a long time and sometimes absent for long periods. While he has been dealing with his problems, time is flying by, and he is missing out on Jacob growing up. The number of canceled weekends and broken promises that have happened has caused Jacob to not be able to rely on his Dad. This has honestly broken my heart, but I can't fix it.
Jacob met Nick and fell in love with him; he was the consistent Dad he was longing to have in his life. The Dad that would be at every game and helping him practice sports. Nick was Jacob's hero. This dynamic with how much Jacob loved Nick was also hard for little Nick. Good thing Little Nick loved Jacob, and they all love the same things.
The two boys have really grown to become siblings they call each other bro it's quite funny hearing them. They have a pretty significant age gap of 3.5 years but it works they like all the same things.
Our little Nash the cutest Boston Terrier going, has been a glue in our family for about three years now. He is like a love therapy dog ha-ha. He loves everyone in this family. All in all, I think we are doing the best we can as a blended family.
I just wanted to formally introduce myself and thank you all for your support during this wonderful journey of becoming the new proud owner of Hi Little One (HLO).
As many of you followed Nell and Maggie's journey of starting HLO, I’m sure some of you may be bummed that they sold the company. I want to reassure you that I am so proud to own this company and have fun everyday designing lines, posting on social media and seeing everyone’s support. *Spoiler Alert* We have some new exciting lines coming out this summer that I’m sure you will all love.